Wednesday, June 18, 2008

Just wondering

Blogging....

I never thought that I would be someone who would write about my daily life and activities and put it out there on the Internet for all the world to see. I mostly do it to stay in touch with friends and family that I don't get to see very often.

We bloggers are sure a trusting lot. I don't use my families name, and try not to give away exactly where we are just in case there are some weirdo's out there reading about our mundane life.

It's interesting how we share so much out here in bloggy land, but even so, do you totally share everything? I find so many times that I hold back. I try to keep this positive, so I don't write about some things, because I know that I have friends and family who read this and I would never want to hurt them by posting stuff that should be personal and private. But sometimes, I feel that this is therapy for me. I get to tell funny stories and re-live some very happy moments in my life, but what about the rest. What about the bad things that happen to us, shouldn't we be able to share those too?

I've gone through some interesting things in the past few months, and would love to be able to share everything especially since I've found some really great ladies on here, but I don't.

I hold back....

I'm fairly reserved in my personal life too, so I guess it should come as no surprise that I don't post everything here either. I hate to let anyone see me down, so I pretend like things are fine sometimes even when they're not.

So my question is, am I alone in this? Or do you all keep things out of your blog too? Is it ever really possible to share are complete selves???

12 comments:

Jenny said...

Here's how I solved this problem: I have two blogs.

One is the one I link here. It's my family blog. Positive, I don't talk politics or hot topics. I do have our name on here and one wouldn't have to research very hard to figure out where I'm at. But be warned any weirdos, I have several guns and I DO know how to use them. Very well, I might add. LOL! It's for my family and friends that can't keep in touch with us very well due to distance.

But I have a private blog, too. I have some privacy settings on it and no one I know in real life, not even my husband, knows how to get to it. I can moan and groan and vent on it about a variety of topics to this whole seperate online community. I use first names only on it and don't use names of towns at all. Only a few people who I have gotten to know over the time of years actually know who and where I really am. But sometimes I just have to vent and blow off steam, and this way I don't hurt anyone close to me.

HRH said...

I think there is a lot left out because I can't write about everything that happens, all my emotions, etc. I end up writing things that crack me up or I think other people might think is funny. So in effect that is being censored, but on the other hand when something REALLY stupid happens or circumstances are such that I might have gotten upset in the past I usually think...at least I have something funny for the blog. So I agree! It is good therapy. I certainly look at things differently then I used to. I don't talk politics or religion or make fun of anyone but myself because I think that it would be taken differently by different readers. Those topics are best in person among friends where you can discuss and see facial expressions, sarcastic tone, etc. It is really hard to convey that in the blog. By the way, it appears that I have taken over yours this afternoon...

I came over to say hi and to tell you that it was Wallowa Lake! I spent at least a week there every summer as a child. The water was so cold that I learned to ski by taking off on the dock and returning to the dock so I wouldn't have to get wet. So funny that you can recognize it from my silly description.

terri said...

Ohhhhh.... I hold a LOT back! My hubby's siblings are cause for a lot of things I'd like to vent about that wouldn't be very becoming. I know some family members read my blog and I wouldn't take the risk of saying something I might regret. Truth be told, there are times I'd like to rant about the hubby, but again, I don't want to put that kind of thing in writing for all to see.

I have often considered adding a private blog, like Jenny suggested, but I haven't.

Pony Girl said...

Good question! I've been wanting to post about this too, being a new blogger I have grappled with these questions myself. I don't use real names, except with horses and pets, except with my own horse, I don't even use his real name!! ;) I also don't say where I live specifically, just generally. And I try not to post many obvious pictures of me. I'm getting over that a little.
Alot of people do not know I blog. All of my family does. But my friends do not. I have not opened up this inner world to them. Nor do I know if they would be too interested since they are not horsey friends and my blog is very horsey. I plan to unveil it to them at some point. Knowing my luck, one of them might find me out there no the WWW. Hey, maybe that'd be easier!
I think it is important to have an outlet, but also keep some things sacred. Once it's out there, it's out there, and it's hard to take it back. In general, the Internet has really made this world a very different place. We can communicate somewhat impersonally without ever speaking or meeting someone. Yet 90% of communication is body language, so how do you account for that? And like you said, it is hard to interpret tone. Even humor can be hard to interpret at times.
I try to avoid controversial issues, it is just not my style. I try to just talk about what I do. I might throw in some of my random thoughts or perspectives (in fact, I am thinking about posting one tomorrow and it's more opinionated than most of my posts, so of course I am nervous about it! ;)
Sorry, I did not mean to write so much and hi-jack your comments section, hee! I will check back to read other's opinions, too.

BrownEyed Cowgirls said...

There are so many times I think about posting more personal things on my blog, but somehow when I sit down to write them-I find myself going in another direction.
I don't know if it is so much to hold back but because somehow it doesn't seem fair to the people who read my blog. How could someone who has never met me really feel comfortable reading about the true emotional roller coaster of the daily choices I have to make.

I have felt the need to sit down and write about the loss of my step-dad, but only because I know that the people who read my blog can all understand the pain of losing a loved one and the need to "talk" about it. I have also occasionally written about my love for my boyfriend. Because he reads the blog-it makes him feel very special that I am willing to put it out there for the world to see and know. Strangely enough, the responses to those posts are numerous-rather than make people uncomfortable-it seems to encourage them to comment.

I guess it has crossed my mind that maybe I put too much personal information in my blog but I am with Jenny on the "let em look me up"-I have guns and am also not afraid to use them-LOL.

Andrea said...

I hold back a lot. I really only post about the happy things we do as a family for my family to read. I am the only child our of 6 who lives far far away. Well, my sister temperarily lives by me, but anyway. I don't use real names and i am veg about where I live.
I too would like to share more personal thoughts but that is what my paper journal is for. I keep that one on my night stand. I just think that nobody wants to read about my drama! My husband gets enough of that!! LOL!!

Cowboys, Kids and Sunsets said...

What a great idea Jenny! I am too new! Two Blogs!(Secret lives of Women!! Lol!) I was going to totally agree, Sometimes you need to just vent, We all have ups and downs! It is good to just let it out! and have a sympathetic ear, or advice thrown your way! Without offending someone! You are not alone! I'm there for ya girlie!! I have a gun or two also! I got your back sista!

Laski said...

We are so much alike! I struggled with this so much. Nearly all of my posts are rather lighthearted. However, it is the more personal posts that have connected me with people. These posts are few and far between. Plus, I avoid controversial topics and I am not out to hurt anyone, so no bashing (today's post was about as close as I'll ever get).

This last post was tough for me. I deleted it first and then posted it because I received so many e-mails from people telling me how much they could relate and thanking me for being so honest. It appeared that some people thought my life was a bed of roses and that I walked around with rainbows and bluebirds all around. Um. No.

I like being positive. It is in my nature, but sometimes it feels refreshing to just let it out. But, I must be honest, there is a good chance that post will disappear after today . . .

Don't be afraid to let it out. As long as you set limits as to what you feel comfortable discussing, you'll find you'll be connecting with a lot more people.

Ranch Mommy said...

Thanks for all of the great comments. I'm glad I'm not alone in this!!

kdwhorses said...

I too hold back some! I do post alot of things about our life, but try to stay neutral on things! I do have alot of family and friends that read my blog and wouldn't want to make a situation worse! But having said that sometimes I probably post too much! I agree with BECG I have tons of guns and I'm not afraid to use them! I figure if someone really wants to find you they will, not matter what you withold! There are tons of sickos out there. But I can say I have meet so many great bloggers that I consider to be great friends! Such a great community of bloggers out there. I have been blessed by the whole blogging thing! Great post, loved reading everyone's responses!

Pony Girl said...

Hey Ranch Mommy, so, I did not end up posting that more "opinionated" post today like I said I might. It just did not sound right. I guess I will keep reworking it. ;) It's not that I am afraid of debating or sharing my opinions or ideas. I am more afraid of offending someone, which would never be my intent, but, could happen if the tone is interpreted wrong.

Meg said...

Great post. I don't share a lot of my personal life either for the reasons that a lot of my so called friends and not so close family read...they never comment, but they lurk all the time.

I have thought about a private blog for a long time. If I started one, would you like to contribute? I think it would be great to have one between a few women who can truly dish. I will definitely get back to you on that.

Love you!